SARASOTA, Fla. -- Some parents say they censored President-Elect Donald Trump speeches from their kids during the campaign afraid of what he'd say.
Now they're having to explain the man who made many outrageous comments -- is our 45th president.
Election night’s results were not Rachel Martin’s choice in part to then candidate Trump’s remarks about ethnic groups and women.
Martin says, “I think it’s disgusting.”
She has a 15-year-old daughter, and two sons 20 and 24 years old. She says, “It’s a teachable moment. Teach my daughter and sons to treat women properly how to be a good person.”
It’s a talk she hasn’t had yet with her youngest Mariah.
“Wait till she gets home from school, see what her friends saying bring out the conversation on the table and go through it,” says Martin.
If at any time one of her kids uses the excuse the president-elect made these comments why can’t they?
Martin says her response will be? “Because it’s not OK. Doesn’t matter who says it still not ok to hurt people in any way.”
A child psychologist says it all comes down to your family values not what some public figure says or does.
Mental health counselor Kristi Skoglund with The Florida Center for Early Childhood says families should start that conversation tonight.
“It would be a good idea to turn off the television and have family time. Talk about what the values are as a family and to believe in the greatness of this country and to believe there can be good and there is hope.”
Parents, says Skoglund, can ease their kids’ fears by letting them know the president doesn’t act alone. She says, “We hope he surrounds himself with people that say this is not OK.”
And remind your kids to do what’s right.
Martin says, “Call them out when they say things like that, call them out and be the voice of change.”
Skoglund says it’s all right for parents to share their feelings, too. What’s important is how everyone shows their frustration. She reminds parents that children are watching them listening and learning how to react to loss and disappointment.
If your kids have trouble verbalizing their feelings have them write it down then share so you can have a discussion.