Repairing relationships after Election Day

The bruising presidential campaign has taken a toll on some relationships.

SARASOTA, Fla. -- Election Day is a chance to cast your vote and have your voice heard. But what if your friends, family or partner don’t like what your vote says? Has it cost you a relationship or damaged one?

“Very harsh words between friends and family but today last day of the election we need to get over this start healing America,” says Patrick Madain, a voter.

Some people avoid the topic and keep their political views private. If you live with someone that’s hard to do.  

“We’ve been married 40 years. Are you voting for the same candidate? No.”

Kathy and Gene Dubray have been married for 40 years and are about to vote in Sarasota. Are they voting for the same presidential candidate? “No,” says Gene.

Kathy says they’ve had healthy — let’s call them discussions -- about their choice for president.

 “We did get into a heated discussion last night,” says Kathy.

But in the end Kathy says, “He tells me his opinion I told him mine it’s not going to affect our marriage in anyway life goes on.”

Gene adds,  “Everybody is entitled to their own opinion. Respect other people’s opinion.”

“If you can’t do that then you’ve got to work on yourself,” says Kathy.

Gene says in 40 years they’ve voted together but rarely for the same candidate.

“Except once or twice,” says Gene.

Kathy was asked if the person she voted for defines her as an individual. She says, “No. I definitely go by the issues.”

And while Kathy isn’t excited about any of the candidates she says she has a responsibility to vote. “People died for me to vote I gotta get out there and vote,” says Kathy.

So when this couple hears of an election tearing apart friends, family and couples they say don’t let it.

Kathy says, “It’s not worth it to have a major fight end a relationship or friendship over it. It’s crazy! Not worth it. Be bigger than that.”

“We have a right to vote, go in the booth and vote whoever you want to vote for it’s that simple,” says Gene.

So despite their different political views are they still a happy couple? Kathy says, “Oh yeah we’re in love.” That statement is sealed with a kiss.

They’ll watch the results separately.

“We’ll both pass out watching different TVs,” says Kathy.

And when a winner is declared?

Kathy says, “We won’t be at odds be ok hope the future improves.”

“See what the next 4 years bring,” adds Gene.

Relationship experts say after the election don't gloat or whine over the results -- let it go.

Apologize if you've lost your temper. Remember, who one votes for doesn't define who they are as a person.

Talk, listen and don't judge.  Agree to disagree so you can move on.


 


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